• Kelly H

YOU ALONE CAN NOT MAKE THEM BETTER, THEY NEED THERAPY!

It’s sad when you learn that your abuser had been abused, truthfully most abusers have been victims themselves, but this is never an excuse or reason to abuse someone else,

,They need counseling, therapy and need to work on that trauma. You are not their counselor, therapist or keeper!

If you are in an abusive relationship, You can still care for someone but let them go so they can heal and work on themselves, it’s their job to get better

It’s not your job, responsibility, duty or burden to take care of them, that will NOT make them better, that prolongs any chance of them finding healing.

YOU ALONE CAN NOT MAKE THEM BETTER, THEY NEED THERAPY!

You can not “love” them into healing, it doesn’t work that way, and it’s hard to think that you can’t help them, truthfully they can only help themselves with intensive therapy,

Unfortunately they will never admit they need that help, they will guilt you into not leaving them because they need you, but in reality what they need is help that you can’t give them.

They try to hold on to unhealthy relationships because that’s what they can control, they thrive off of the abuse

The best thing for yourself and them is to let go and let them find a way to heal.

Remember letting go doesn’t mean that you didn’t love them, it means you love yourself enough to get yourself help,

Remember even if someone claims they “love” you, that doesn’t make it a healthy love, you have to let go of things that aren’t healthy

Praying you always find hope in the darkness and that you protect and love yourself to fight through it, there is a beautiful life after domestic violence waiting for you!

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